You will often hear wedding publications and wedding pros talk about how “It is your wedding day. Do what you want!” To be honest, we are guilty of this as well. However, it isn’t just your day. Weddings are a celebration of love and commitment between two people but they are also about the joining of families. It is a celebration of those that have supported you and your future spouse along the way.
Your wedding is a special day for your parents and grandparents. Chances are they have had the biggest influence on who you are today. Their love and dedication to raising you deserve acknowledgment at your wedding. There are many ways that you can include these special loved ones throughout your wedding planning and celebration or honor them if they have passed on.
We do understand that there are cases in which your relationship with your parents may not be the best. In those cases, do whatever feels right for your situation.
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Including your mother and mother-in-law throughout your wedding planning will always be appreciated. Whether it’s going to find your wedding dress or being part of your bridal shower planning, it will make them feel special in knowing that you value their opinion. However, you do not need to, nor should you feel obligated to, include them in every wedding planning decision. Making these decisions as a couple is a big part of the wedding planning process and prep for your future marriage.
First Look
In most cases, the bride’s mother and possibly grandmother will be with the bride as she gets ready. However, the bride’s father (or ceremony escort) won’t see the bride until she is ready to walk down the aisle. Working in time to have a private first look prior to your walk down the aisle is special as it gives you both time to soak up the moment with each other. These types of first looks always make for lovely wedding photos as they are so beautifully emotional.
Personalized Gifts
Giving your parents a personalized gift on your wedding day is a sweet gesture of your appreciation for all their support through the years. Embroidered handkerchiefs with heartful messages or quotes and engraved jewelry are popular options.
Honorary Parents
Just as each of us is unique, so are the relationships that we have throughout our lives. In the case that you have a person in your life that has taken on a parent or grandparent role, such as a step-parent or aunt, feel free to include and/or honor them as well. Maybe it’s inviting your aunt to your dress fitting or having a special dance with your stepdad, there are a variety of ways to let them know you value their impact on your life.
Family Heirlooms
If you are looking for “something borrowed”, a family heirloom is the perfect accessory. Jewelry pieces such as earrings, a necklace, or cufflinks are all wonderful options. It is a great way to hold those loved ones close to you throughout your wedding day if they have passed. Also, it can turn into a beautiful tradition that can be passed on to the next generation.
Memorial Photos
Photos are always a great reminder of cherished memories and people. Including them at your wedding celebration is a way to have those present that can not attend. Whether you are sharing a family member’s wedding photo or a snapshot of your favorite memory with them, you can place these on a guestbook table or reception table. You could even create a designated remembrance table for them.
Ceremony Reflection
Your wedding ceremony is the one time in your wedding that you will have all of your wedding guests’ undivided attention. Whether you’d like a moment of silence, a special reading, or even share a memory, it’s the perfect time to honor loved ones are your wedding.